The Twins Turn Eight!

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Eight years ago today, this is what I was doing (and four years ago today, I blogged about it at my old place. Click over to see that birthday post!):


Dear Abby & Izzy,

On this day eight years ago, you came into my life and changed me forever. You made me a mother, something I thought I might not ever have the chance to be.

It’s been a bumpy road. I’m a far-from-perfect mother. Daddy gets to be the fun one.


I’m all
brush your teeth! did you brush your hair? is your folder in your backpack? eat your breakfast. HURRY UP. get dressed! it’s twenty degrees outside, you NEED A SWEATER over that shirt! please chew with your mouth closed. brush your teeth. HURRY UP. we’re going to be late. where’s your homework? get in the car. put your clothes away. homework first, then you can go outside to play. it’s too cold to play outside. clean up the toy room. NOW. brush your teeth! let me smell your breath. eat two more bites and then you can have dessert. HURRY UP. Nemo doesn’t belong in the kitchen. did you even wash your hands? there’s a hole in your sock, you can’t wear those. seriously? yes, you have to shower tonight, you’re stinky. do i need to put on the timer? just a minute. i’m coming. i asked you to BRUSH YOUR TEETH.

I’m your mom. I’m supposed to nag you to do these things. Sure, it’s hard to listen to. It’s hard for me to listen to myself. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that motherhood isn’t a big deal, because it is. It’s hard and important work, it’s being on call 24/7, it’s being a nurse and a therapist and a housekeeper, it’s being a laundress, a tutor, a grocery shopper, a chauffeur; it’s worrying about you 24/7, taking you to the dentist, the eye doctor, the pediatrician. It’s making sure there’s food in the pantry and clean underwear in your dresser. It’s sniffing your hair when you get out of the shower to make sure you smell like shampoo instead of a wet dog. It’s trying to teach you how to walk the line, do the right thing, set a good example, help others, stand up for yourself, show kindness, ask questions, be brave, try new things, respect your teachers and your elders, and ohmygodthislistwheredoesitend?

It doesn’t.

Because motherhood never ends. I will never stop being your mother. I’m the only mother you will ever have, for better or for worse.

I love you to the moon and back. I’m sorry I’m hard on you sometimes. There’s a lot about me you’re too young to understand yet, and that makes it difficult. Just know that my love for you knows no bounds. And even on my bleakest days…you? are my sunshines.


Happy Birthday, Abby and Izzy.


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  • Christopher Cole

    Just WOW. Pure delight. You are indeed a Mommy.

    • Erin Margolin

      thanks, Christopher! Not the greatest mommy, but still a mom, and that’s good. happy holidays!

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus

    Wow. Your litany of “requests” sounds an awful lot like mine with my daughter. So true. True also about the love knowing no bounds.

    • Erin Margolin


      Hooray, so glad to know others’ kids sound similarly. LOL! Happy holidays to you! ps are you going to BlogHer next year?? I think of our roundtable with Neil often! xo

      • Estelle Sobel Erasmus

        Hi Erin, our roundtable with Neil was so much fun!! I’m still on the fence re travel and my hubby’s plans, etc. It is a long time to be away and that far away, so not sure. Hey, did you ever read my Shabbat blog? Would love your thoughts, although I don’t think I can accept comments anymore. xo

  • Alison Lee

    You are the best Mom for them, and they know it, even if they don’t always understand all that goes on with being a mother, a wife, a woman, a daughter, a sister. To them, you are their world. One who asks them to brush their teeth no doubt, but still, their world.

    Happy Birthday, Abby and Izzy!

    • Erin Margolin


      Thanks so much for your soothing words. They’re a balm to my soul. Love you and thanks for the birthday wishes for the girls!


  • sellabitmum

    You are the perfect mom for them. Love you. Love your sweet girls. xo

    • Erin Margolin


      You are sweet to say that. I love you too and am thinking of you & Jed. Please let us know how everything is when you’re up to it. hugs xoxo

  • Lady Jennie

    This sounds just like me!! I echo Tracy. You are the perfect mom for them and they wouldn’t want any other. Love seeing their sweet faces.

    • Erin Margolin


      You couldn’t possibly sound the same as me… and I have a feeling they wouldn’t want any other only b/c they’ve never known another. They might get a taste of a really nice, warm, thoughtful mom, but… they are stuck with me.


  • Lina Dickinson

    What a fun story! My daughter is turning 8 on Dec 20th and I remember that storm!

    • Erin Margolin


      Happy almost birthday to YOUR girl!! I totally think the pressure changes from that storm sent me into labor! The snow we got was incredible. I remember it was icy out too, and husband insisted on walking me from my car in the lot outside into the Peet Center at St. Luke’s on the Plaza…. otherwise I’d have slipped for sure.

      Thanks so much for stopping by! ;-)

  • thekitchenwitch

    I love this story–and the comments below. Your friends know your true worth! Happy birthday to your girls!

    • Erin Margolin

      KitchWitch Dana,

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving me some love. I miss you. I keep thinking about BlogHer & VOTY & Judy Blume. I need to go register for the conference, but I’ve been to busy trying to keep my head above water.


  • Sarah Heleringer Reinhart

    Happy birthday to the girls! And happy day to you as well. Big hugs to all of you :) Xoxo

    • Erin Margolin

      Thanks so much, Sarah! Hugs right back to you and soooo love your new look and the feel of your new “digs!”


  • From Tracie

    Happy birthday Abby & Izzy!!

    • Erin Margolin

      Belated thank you, Tracie! Hope you and Miss K are gearing up for a fun holiday season! When does her “break” begin? xoxo

      • From Tracie

        It begins officially next week, but she got some extra time off last week when we did our press trip at Universal Studios. I hope y’all have a great break, too.

  • Sara F. Hawkins

    Happy birthday, Abby and Izzy. And happy anniversary of BIRTH day to you, Erin.

    • Erin Margolin

      Very belated thank you, Sara. I appreciate your stopping by to say hi, especially in the midst of everything you’re dealing with right now.

      I think of you often…and your family. Sending you hugs and good thoughts.


  • Julie Gardner

    You are THE BEST role model your daughters could ever have.

    Perfection is not a goal mothers should shoot for – after all, what does that teach children about unconditional love? Our kids will be imperfect. They need to see us being this way, too.

    And yet. Still loved. Loving. Lovable.

    Your girls see a mother who is generous and kind. Who apologizes (!!), who reevaluates, who never stops looking for ways to improve the world around her.

    They are lucky beyond words to be loved by you.
    Happy birthday, Abby and Izzy.

    Eight is awesome. And so is your mom.

  • Roxanne Piskel

    Happy birthday Abby & Izzy!!

    • Erin Margolin

      thanks, Roxanne!! ;-)

  • Kerstin Auer

    Happy Birthday, Abby & Izzy! 8 rocks :)
    Erin, you are a great mom, the best your twins could possibly have! (and BRUSH YOUR TEETH is a daily thing here. I even say it just in case, because it rarely happens by itself:) )

    • Erin Margolin


      When is it that they start to honestly care about their own oral hygiene? or bad breath? LOL

  • Leigh Ann

    Happy birthday, Abby & Izzy! Such beautiful and spunky girls. I hope all of our kids grow up to know that being a mom is HARD. And I hope that someday I can learn that it’s okay to be the one who does the nagging, as long as I don’t forget to bust out in a dance party once in a while. :)

  • Mindy

    I forgot that Ezra shares a birthday with the twins! Happy birthday to these two sweethearts. :) I love that we both wrote birthday letters today.

    • Erin Margolin


      I hope Ezra’s birthday was amazing and that you all had a wonderful time. I can truthfully say we will NOT be having a slumber party in this house again EVER. Or at the very least for a very long time. LOL!

  • BipolarMom (Jenn)

    Happy Birthday to your beautiful girls, Erin! And happy birth day anniversary to you, mama! xoxoxo

    • Erin Margolin

      Thank you so much, Jenn! How are you? How’s the bracelet making going (NO PRESSURE, just asking and checking to see how you’re holding up)? I think of you often and hope we can chat/Skype soon. But I know you’re probably busy w/ the holidays + the campaign’s end. xoxo

  • Andrea

    Happy Birthday to you all!! What a sweet post, and one that made me laugh. You are so right – the list never ends. :)

    • Erin Margolin


      Thanks so much for the birthday wishes, and for saying that my post made you laugh. Means a lot, especially coming from you! xox

  • Jennifer P. Williams

    So perfectly lovely and true. Momming is hard, but so, so worth it a million times over.

    • Erin Margolin


      “momming” may be my new favorite phrase. and yes, it’s hard. harder than hard sometimes. but also worth it. xoxo

  • Elaine A.

    You gave me chills with this. I love in the video when you say “I’m a Momma!” Such a wonderful moment in your life and theirs, Erin. I had to laugh so much at 2 things because OMG, I have to say and do them to my boys ALLTHETIME! “Let me smell your breath” and their hair to make sure they washed it in the shower. Our kids are kindred spirits. ;-) Happy Birthday to Abby and Izzy, you are the most wonderful mom to them EVER! Love you and so them too. XOXOXOXO

  • Keely

    Happy birthday, gals! 8 is a wonderful year…and you’ve got a wonderful Mama, to boot.

    • Erin Margolin

      Thanks, Keely! I’m so happy for you right now! And YOU are a wonderful mom yourself!


  • heidi

    Beautiful, Erin! Happy Birthday to your sunshines!
    Oh, and that running list is me ALL the time.

  • Ally

    Nothing will make me tear up faster than a video of newborns!
    Happiest of Happy Birthdays to your sunshines!
    The hardest job with the best and biggest rewards. xoxo

  • amandamagee

    No, motherhood doesn’t end, but she does ebb an flow. She does grow softer around the edges and finds forgiveness for herself and more what will be will be for her babes. Oh, such sunshine to be found. Love to you and your whole sweet family.

    • Erin Margolin

      Thanks, Amanda! I hope she gets softer soon. I could use some softness….

  • Kim@Co-Pilot Mom

    Happy Birthday to Abby and Izzy! Eight is great. :)
    And your list and your reminders have such a familiar ring to me – as I am sure they do with most moms. Motherhood bonds us all that way, doesn’t it?

    • Erin Margolin

      Thanks, Kim! Yes, we are bonded through motherhood, so you’re sorta stuck with me that way! ;-)

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