The Confidence to Write

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Welcome to “Show Us Your Roots,” where every Friday I share a new blogger with you. In the spirit of my blog, I encourage you to share yourself with us, talk about your writing, your blog, your story, and how/why/when you began blogging. If you’re interested in being featured, all you have to do is contact me. I have dates available beginning June 1st!

Today please welcome my new friend Laura Seymour. She’s a baker, taxi driver, housekeeper, laundress, account manager, word-crafter, volunteer, music nut, TV aficionado, and friend. Her most important role is that of wife & mom. She (rarely) blogs at Two Little Rockstars (twolittlerockstars.com), manages accounts & writes for V3 (v3im.com), and works full-time as a medical coder. Yes, she does too much and often feels like a nutcase.

She’s a Kansas City native, but detoured for several years to Texas. She & her family seceded to the place she loves almost two years ago. She hangs out at the playground, her kids’ school, and soccer games (yes, she even became a soccer mom). When she’s done with all of these super-cool activities, her nightlife includes watching “Too Close for Comfort” and “Three’s Company” and conking out on the couch by 10 PM. Her life is VERY exciting.

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I’ve never called myself a writer.

When someone asks me if I’m a writer, when I talk about my work, my response is always, “I can write, but I’m not a writer.” I have no idea what my hesitation is, but I think that attitude has become a stumbling block.

As a child of bookstore owners, reading has always been a part of my life, but I never loved writing until 7th grade English, when my favorite teacher saw something in my words for class that I didn’t know were there. She nurtured this side of me, and I still feel incredibly lucky to have crossed paths with her.

Like any handwritten journal I’ve ever started, my blogging life has been sporadic. Start, write, pour heart & soul into…get distracted, piss someone off, boredom…unpublish and start anew…I’ve done this a few times. Even now, I get the urge to start again and do something more “professional”, but I get freaked out by it all. I don’t have the time, energy, or patience. The real reason, though, I’m admitting for the first time here: I don’t have the confidence.

What I tell myself to avoid writing: Everyone else writes better than I ever could. The blogging world is saturated with wannabes like me. No one will care about what I’m saying. What would I write about (aside from boring stories about my kids)?

The truth: I’ve read a LOT of blogs over the past seven-ish years. I’m a decent, if not good, writer. Everyone has to start (over…again) somewhere. I’m not really new to this. I have supportive people that have cheered me on over the years. I’m surrounded by people that care about what I’m saying. And there’s plenty to write about…PLENTY! Just from this blog alone, I can find writing prompts galore. There are a lot of moments that go unwritten by me, and I want them to come out.

Still, the confidence holds me back. The idea of sending this and seeing it published on a blog with a lot of readers? Oof.

But therein lies the beauty of this community, right? Meeting Erin online through a mutual friend, I’ve fallen in love with her brave words. Reading eloquently written posts about topics that are deeply personal, painful, and difficult,I’m encouraged that I, too, can do this. If someone can reach inside themselves and turn life’s most awkward and hard moments into something beautiful, then so can I. I’m fairly new to Erin’s blog, but I feel a bigger fire here than I have in a long time in the blogging community. People leaving comments, people taking time and encouraging one another. I’m going to stick around and gain the courage to be a writer.

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psssst, Laura. I’ve got a secret to tell you. You ARE a writer!

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  • http://terrisonoda.net/ Terri Sonoda

    Hi Laura!  Beautifully written!  The lovely Erin once (and still does) encouraged me while also inspiring me to keep on writing my heart.  I’ve been blogging for almost two years now and have even written two novels.  Writing every day is the key for me, and would be the best advice I could offer.  Write something every day.  There are so many prompts in the blogosphere, several that will probably interest and inspire you. And on those days you don’t want to go near your blog  (I have those days!)   just write your thoughts down for a few minutes.  It keeps the “wheels oiled”, if you will.   So Godspeed with your endeavors.  I look forward to checking out your blog. 
    Terri

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Terri, I am going to work on it, try to write daily, and read more inspiring pieces. Thanks so much for your encouragement! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1354234082 Alycia Adams Neighbours

    Hi Laura!!

    I can see what your teacher saw…your heart is intertwined in your words. Your words transport me to a quaint coffee shop where you and I are sitting alone simply talking. Unlike so many whose words are professionally cold; your words have real human warmth and companionship.

    Keep writing; for YOU are a writer.

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

      Alycia, this means so much. Thank you! I appreciate your kind words. :)

  • http://misadventuresofmrsb.com/ Mrs. Jen B

    It’s so nice to meet you, Laura.  You ARE a writer – all you have to do is decide you are one.  I know it’s scary – I’ve spent a lot of time avoiding it, calling myself other things, making excuses for myself.  But one day it hit me: I’m who I say I am, and then I act that way.  That’s all.

    So you ARE a writer.  Keep writing!

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Thank you, Jen! You’re so right. Your words mean a lot.

  • Somethingaboutmolly

    I dont know you Erin (but im going to keep reading!). You sure did pick a great gal to share with your readers.

    I know, love, and miss Laura so much!

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Molly, thanks, friend. Miss & love you too!

  • Katgirl

    Way to go Laura! You are a great writer, wife, mommy and friend! I am lucky to know you… And Erin too!

  • http://twitter.com/dutchbeingme Julie

    Laura, your words here struck something in me…the confidence thing. I too find myself not confident in what I am writing – not confident in so many things that I am doing in life – that I question myself over and over. 

    The only thing I know from reading this is that you are a writer. A writer that has her own story to share – and I am glad to have “met” you here today! (And now about to find you on twitter!)

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Julie, thank you. Writing is not the only thing that I am not confident about either. I hope that by stepping into one thing that I love, I’ll find the ability to overcome other fears too. Let’s hope it works (and I’m glad to have the chance to get to know you on Twitter too!).

  • Anonymous

    I completely understand the “I’m not a writer” feeling. Totally get the lack of confidence. I think we all come to a moment when we realize that we are worth being successful and happy doing what we love, be it writing, photography, whatever. Erin is the exact person that we need in our lives but we don’t realize it until we meet her and read her words. She opens a lot of doors that we hold closed because even in her fear we realize it’s a good fear.. the kind she jumps into with both feet. We watch and we realize if she can do it and make it look easy even if it is not anywhere close to easy, we might be able to as well. So glad you found her and she you and gave you the space to acknowledge who you truly are.

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

      Thank you. I agree, this is a great space to come for inspiration. I hope we can both overcome this “I’m not a writer” notion. After reading all of these comments, I realize that I’m being pretty silly. :)

  • http://janasthinkingplace.com/ Jana A (@jana0926)

    I understand and get ALL these feelings. I’m not quite ready to tread into really deep topics in my writing, but I’m getting there. You write words. You write beautifully. You ARE a writer. I’m so glad you’re here, in Erin’s wonderful space, sharing your fears, your truths and your words. 

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Thanks, Jana! I agree; it is so hard to say what’s really on our minds. I hope we can work on our fears together. :)

  • Roysandybeaty

    Well said. Let writing pour out – sometimes it takes care of itself. You are a smart cookie and people will benefit from your observations.

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Thanks, mom. :)

  • http://lancemyblogcanbeatupyourblog.wordpress.com/ Lance

    Last night, my wife told em she told her co-workers about my writing along with the possible publishing opportunity it holds. They asked my wife if she’s read my lastest two stories, – The Ballad of Helene Troy and Soul To Body, She told them no, because I overreact to her reactions and struggle with my confidence when my wife or clsoest friends don’t praise what I do. Her co-workers response – “yeah,your husband definitely a writer. that’s how neurotic they all are.”

    You;re a writer, Laura. You’re a good one. I hung on every word. Welcome to Erin’s place. I hope you come back when I drop my guest post next Friday.

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Lance, absolutely! Thank you so much. I’m glad I’m not the only one looking for confidence and to be a bit less neurotic. HA!

  • Bocafrau

    Laura, I feel like you when it comes to my blog… “Everyone else writes better than I ever could. The blogging world is saturated with wannabes like me. No one will care about what I’m saying. What would I write about…”  I feel like I’m still finding my footing and need to find direction. I always say, hey, I need to sit and write this out and then life gets in the way. I love blogging and all that comes with it. But wish I was a bit more confident and go after what I want without so much hesitation. Thanks for being honest and sharing your feeling with us. I love Erin’s blog and am glad I found it. 

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       I think Erin’s blog is a GREAT place to gain writing confidence. Anyone that can share their heart like she does is someone from whom we will learn good things. :)

  • http://twitter.com/Clutteredbrain Cluttered Brain

    Laura sounds like a great gal! I hope she continues top write. The confidence will come the more you do something! And Erin, thanks for sharing such a wonderful gal with us. I’m trying to get back out there to everyone. I’ve been kinda MIA for a while. But I’m still here. :)Hope life is treating you well!

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Thank you! :)

  • Anonymous

    You can do it – the first step is believing in yourself. Hopefully you’ve taken that one. Now, just write :))

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Thanks, Shelly! You’re so right…I am getting there. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/andreahatfield Andrea Hatfield

    Nice to meet you Laura. I too lack confidence and it stinks. If this post is anything like you normally write, I’d say you’re doing a great job! Hope you’re having a nice weekend :)

    • http://twitter.com/lauraBseymour Laura S.

       Thanks, Andrea. That means a lot. :) Hope you’re having a great weekend too!

  • http://www.mayangelstar.com/ Veronica

    What you shared are pretty much my thoughts and feelings as well and why my blog is so sparsely updated. Thanks for putting yourself out there. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in the world.

  • http://www.elatedexhaustion.com/ Julia

    I would love to read more from you! I am new to the blogging world, and I agree that putting our thoughts and feelings out there can be slightly terrifying. But you are so right; there is a beauty to this community. I hope you do decide to share more here. You have a lovely writing voice.